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He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 8:13:57 PM
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RamiRedeemed
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the correct way! And it's driving me crazy!! He won't take his pants off first, then his panties, then his socks. Oh no! He does it all in one swift movement, leaving me a ball of clothing all stuck inside each other. When I go to do the laundry I have to remove his panties from his jeans and then remove the balled up socks from the bottom of the pant legs. GRRR!! It's gross enough touching dirty worn clothing but then to fish around in there until I find all the articles, well that just makes me wanna vomit. And the balled up socks? OOoooo the balled up socks. Disgusting!!!
I've told him to please undress like an average person but he doesn't listen. I've went on a laundry strike and refused to wash what wasn't taken off properly. That kinda sorta worked- he eventually started doing his own laundry BUT he never takes it out of the washing machine so that leaves more work for me. I have to redo the load and then put it in the dryer and wait for it to get done before I can put a new load in. Meh.
Guys, how do I make him take his pants off the correct way? Perhaps I should throw away all of his socks and panties? And why does he do this anyway? Even on my busiest days I can manage to remove one article of clothing at a time.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 8:24:53 PM
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For starters, stop calling them panties.
You should be able to separate everything just by shaking it.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 9:15:37 PM
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Trying to make him get undressed the "right" way will only lead to frustration. You wouldn't want him making you do something in a way he considered the right way would you?
And I agree with the previous statement. I've never heard men's underwear called "panties". Please call them underwear so we don't get confused.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 10:04:03 PM
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If it's really that big of a deal to you, then I would imagine you haven't clearly communicated that. Now, I know you may think you have, but I doubt if he has seen it that way. If you really want him to change, you need to sit down with him and talk to him, plain and straight, explaining how you feel.
Of course, it may also be a big deal to him to keep doing it the way he is. I don't know why it would be, but hey, us humans are odd people sometimes.
Whatever the case may be, repeat to yourself "It's just laundry." Seriously, there are things to make a deal out of, and clothing isn't one of them.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 10:16:55 PM
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If he's wearing "panties" he's got bigger problems than just taking his clothes off "wrong"
BTW, are the clothes coming off? Then they are coming off in the right way.
I'm assuming this is your husband? In whcih case you'll just have to mark it down as on of those quirks that you'll eventually be able to laugh about.
You might be able to get him to unball them and put them in the hamper. But until then, don't get your "underwear" in a knot. It's just not worth it.
(If it's not your husband (or your son) why are you doing his laundry anyway?)
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 10:55:00 PM
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Yes, it's my husband LOL. Why would I do any other persons laundry? Nasty!
I know it's 'just' laundry, but it's a big deal! It's giving me more extra work to do and I really really don't need extra work. What bothers me more is that he's inconsiderate of my time and won't listen when I ask him to stop. If he were to undress all stupid like he does and then un-ball the clothing to put in the hamper that would be OK. As long as I don't have to dig my pretty little hands into his dirty nasty clothing to retrieve random peices of soiled garments. GROSS!
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 11:21:30 PM
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but it's a big deal!
How have you let him know this? Be specific. In other words, don't just say "I've told him." I'm looking for a "I told him in passing during dinner," or "I sat him down and spent five minutes explaining it to him," etc. I ask because, as I'm sure you know, sometimes we say things, assuming we're understood completely, only to learn that our spouse didn't get our message at all. So it could be that your husband just hasn't gotten how big a deal this is to you.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/9/2008 11:57:31 PM
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Mr. Fibbles,
At first I tried a very nice approach. I said something to the effect of 'could you please unball your clothing because it's causing me more work and time.' I tried that a few times. Then the angry face came out and I yelled in my most demon like voice 'if you do this one more time I'm going to castrate you and give all of your unballed clothing to a poor family who can appreciate them.' I even tried the 'someone else will appreciate me doing laundry' approach. I've also explained to him that he knows I'm really sensitive to smells and spending extra time unballing his clothing makes me sick. (He works with jet fuel and comes home smelling like it.)
Nothing is working. ARG!
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 9:07:43 AM
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If you stop washing the articles that are balled up like that then when he runs out of clean clothes PERHAPS he might grab a clue.
I personally believe it is a sign of respect to the job my wife undertakes in doing the laundry that I go to the point of making sure my socks are right side out and not in a ball. The undergarments will be separated from pants and shirts too.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 10:55:13 AM
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Mr. Fibbles,
At first I tried a very nice approach. I said something to the effect of 'could you please unball your clothing because it's causing me more work and time.' I tried that a few times. Then the angry face came out and I yelled in my most demon like voice 'if you do this one more time I'm going to castrate you and give all of your unballed clothing to a poor family who can appreciate them.' I even tried the 'someone else will appreciate me doing laundry' approach. I've also explained to him that he knows I'm really sensitive to smells and spending extra time unballing his clothing makes me sick. (He works with jet fuel and comes home smelling like it.)
Nothing is working. ARG!
Finally we get the info we need.
I agree with stamper_ben. let him know that you won't wash clothes that are not unballed and why (the jet fuel smell makes you sick). If needed, bag them in black garbage bags and throw them outside. And let him know why you've done so.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 11:09:23 AM
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Yes, it's my husband LOL. Why would I do any other persons laundry? Nasty! I was thinking it was your son.....
As to the stuff left in the washer, you could just put the wet clothes in a basket and leave them.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 12:12:21 PM
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If this is the biggest argument you have, you must be fairly newlywed. A simple solution would be to ask him to help you for a moment WHEN you are headed to the laundry room. You can't "make" anyone do something. If you trying to "make" him do something, you'd better be sure that this is the hill you want to die on.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 2:15:26 PM
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Let him do his own laundry. Does he know you are saying he wears "panties"?
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 4:19:35 PM
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Yup, I've called them panties my entire life and I'm not about to stop now! 
so maybe he's taken his clothes off this way his entire life (and he's not about to stop now!)
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 6:36:39 PM
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A few months ago I threw away every single pair of socks he owns because he kept wearing them mismatched. If I have to I will throw away every article of clothing. He will learn, one way or another
I can tell you right now that if my wife did that, I would 1, get really, really annoyed, and 2, just keep doing it. It's a childish, immature way of dealing with the problem. Will it "fix it"? Maybe, but it won't change the attitude behind the action. In fact, I would say it'll make it worse.
If all you're looking for is a surface change, by all means, go ahead. But if you want meaningful change, in him and you, dig in and communicate.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 6:53:50 PM
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A few months ago I threw away every single pair of socks he owns because he kept wearing them mismatched. If I have to I will throw away every article of clothing. He will learn, one way or another
I can tell you right now that if my wife did that, I would 1, get really, really annoyed, and 2, just keep doing it. It's a childish, immature way of dealing with the problem. Will it "fix it"? Maybe, but it won't change the attitude behind the action. In fact, I would say it'll make it worse.
If all you're looking for is a surface change, by all means, go ahead. But if you want meaningful change, in him and you, dig in and communicate.
I've tried the communication though, it doesn't work. Ooo maybe I should hire a maid to do the laundry?
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 6:56:41 PM
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I've tried the communication though, it doesn't work.
One thing I greatly dislike about internet communication is that it's very difficult to convey mood. Sometimes (like what might happen here), someone can say something in an entirely good-natured, constructive tone, but it can be taken as hostile and condescending. That to say, please take what I'm about to say as good-natured and constructive.
If you can't communicate effectively about laundry, what will happen when big stuff comes up?
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 6:59:13 PM
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I've tried the communication though, it doesn't work.
One thing I greatly dislike about internet communication is that it's very difficult to convey mood. Sometimes (like what might happen here), someone can say something in an entirely good-natured, constructive tone, but it can be taken as hostile and condescending. That to say, please take what I'm about to say as good-natured and constructive.
If you can't communicate effectively about laundry, what will happen when big stuff comes up?
The big stuff we don't seem to have a problem with. It's not that he doesn't know how I feel about the laundry, its moreso that he doesn't really care. He won't take the 30 seconds to amend the situation.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 7:03:32 PM
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The big stuff we don't seem to have a problem with. It's not that he doesn't know how I feel about the laundry, its moreso that he doesn't really care. He won't take the 30 seconds to amend the situation.
Well, the only thing I can think of is he just does not understand how serious the problem is to you. You may say, "This is a big deal to me!", but since it is just a laundry issue, he may think "Eh, I've been doing it all my life, it can't be that bad! It's just laundry!"
Again, I would suggest sitting him down, looking him in the eye, and saying something along the lines of "Honey, on a scale of one to ten, this is about a 9 1/2 edging its way to 10. Please, it may seem stupid, but it's a really big deal to me. It would mean a lot to me if you could take a little time and unbundle your clothes/take them off in order/some other solution." If he doesn't respond to something like that, then there's a greater underlying problem there.
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RE: He won't take his pants off... - 11/10/2008 8:32:38 PM
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So does he really wear panties?
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